Nadya Suleman, better known as “octomom,” was recently quoted saying that her decision to give birth to and raise 14 children has “screwed up” her life.  Though the unemployed, single mother of six was really not killin’it it when she defiantly celebrated the simultaneous birth of 8 more children, she might actually be killin’ it now.  If we’re honest, what Nadja was seeking isn’t much different then what most of us want: a lot of people to love, a lot of people to love us, and a little social notoriety along the way.  Octomom chased these desires; now she’s feeling the pain and admitting that she thinks she messed up her entire life.  I’ve met so many people who feel the same way about getting married or going far down a career path that doesn’t pan out?  In these situations, most are too embarrassed to admit such colossal mistakes. Nobody will to force us to own up to it, and I suspect deep down that people would rather not hear about it anyway.

Imagine:

“Good morning, how’re you today?”

“I feel like I screwed up my whole life.”

Likely it would go more like this:

“Good morning, how was your weekend?”

“Weird, I got married to someone I met on facebook last week.”

“Whatever floats your boat!”

The more we allow ourselves to judge someone else as a joke because of their ambitions and failures, the easier it becomes to ignore our own shortcomings in life.  Octomom is showing us something about killin’ it by having the courage to admit she failed because of her own choices.